ENFJ

Who you are

You see what someone could become and steer them toward it. You move people with words that carry real conviction, and the effect tends to outlast you.

Where you're strong

• ·Grows other people
• ·Speaks with sincerity
• ·Leads a group

At work

People often leave a one-on-one with you clearer about what they want to do next. That makes coaching, teaching, and team leadership a natural fit. Giving critical feedback is difficult for you, so you may soften it until the point gets lost. You may agree to mentor one more person even when your own work is behind.

With people

You commit deeply. Just know that the expectation can land as pressure.

In love

Early on, you pay close attention to a partner's moods and plan around what will lift them. The dates you set up usually fit their interests. Because your attention is on them, you may forget to say what you want. Small resentments can then build up without the partner ever knowing.

Under stress

Having your help turned down by someone you put a lot into stays with you for days. You may turn cold and short with the people you usually look after, which confuses them. After a few weeks of a pottery or language class, where you are simply a student, you start to feel like yourself.

Watch out for

Caring for others, you notice your own state late. You need tending too.