ESFJ

Who you are

You naturally scan for whoever's being left out. You spend energy on tending relationships, and that's what keeps a group together.

Where you're strong

• ·Looks after people
• ·Tunes the atmosphere
• ·Helps in concrete ways

At work

Welcome cards, farewell gifts and the holiday party end up on your list, and you do them well. Decisions made only on numbers, with no thought for the people affected, can bother you. In those moments you are often the one who speaks up for the people affected.

With people

You're expressive and attentive, and you expect a comparable response back.

In love

In a new relationship you like clear signs of where it stands, like meeting each other's families or agreeing on a label. You keep in close contact and notice quickly if something is off between you. Small traditions, like the same dinner spot every Friday, matter a lot to you.

Under stress

A friend who goes cold without telling you why can fill your thoughts for weeks. You feel lighter as soon as you ask them directly, even if the talk is short and awkward. Until you ask, you throw yourself into hosting, planning one dinner after another so the house is never quiet.

Watch out for

Accommodating everyone means storing your own hurt. Saying it in time matters.